Wednesday, June 29, 2016

Kissing Scene - Private or Published Collection?

Written by F! Makeup on 3:32:00 PM in Personal Life with No comments

Hi, everyone...

Still writing on to catch up everything left behind before. First of all, I would like to say that this post is NOT meant for someone or certain people. It just only my sharing and personal experience.

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Well, I know that is kinda out of my topic to talk about it. Usually, I just avoid to talking about SARA, but hell ya I'm also a human - sometimes we just want to share what we thinking about kan? #human.

I was born in Indonesia which is having eastern culture. When something like kissing, hug, and other sexual activities are considered as taboo things. Yes, we are state as a democracy but not too 'freedom' enough for expressing everything. We are in middle of that.

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Several days ago, I was publishing my kissing scene in one of my social media. Mostly my friends give us like and congratulated for the big event. But, there is one of my friend comment on that photo, she said the photo should be private collection and it shouldn't publish to my social media.

I lil bit suprised, as long as I using that social media, she rarely comment or interact even communicated with me. Suddenly, she comment me for that photo. Firstly, I just think, 'is it true what she said?', moreover she is a preacher. I thinking a lot before I reply her comment. Should I remove this photo or I just let the photo post? Confused.

But, I decide to preserve my photo posting. Let me tell you the reason why:

The photo was taken on MY WEDDING DAY. All my guest: old, elderly, young, child, baby, Moslem, Christian, men, women, even both our parents watched the kiss. It wasn't something that we did secretly.
Cause we did it in public, when witness all of my guest - it's indicate that we did it based on love not for sexual desire or something like that.
I wearing wedding gown, crown, full make up and hairdo - my husband wearing tuxedo complete with glove and bouquet so it was indicating we celebrate something special. What was it? It was our wedding, our big occasion. So, in special occasion we did our wedding kiss once in our lifetime and the photographer catch it as 'a moment' that should be memorialized.
I do have a private photo. Just wearing a casual clothes and not in special moment. Am I published it? NO. Cause I know, it's not public consumption, we did it secretly and nobody know. So, I think it something that we kept just only for ourself.

Here, I just want to share my thought about kissing scene. What I thought, my faith, my right, my perspective with how I handle kissing, hug, or sexual activities. I can filter which one can be private consumption which one I can share with everyone or limited with my relatives and friends.

Guys, IMO we can't judge someone good or bad with just only how many he/she doing kissing/sexual activities. Don't be hypocritical, we are human - sexual desire is so human. We were created with that, don't avoid. But, how we face it - it's more important than you just pretend there's not desire in your life. If there is not sexual desire, you couldn't be here. You never born in this world. Please change your mindset and how to face it wisely.

Happy Wedding Kiss!

What do you think? Please share.

Love and Regards,
F.

How I Get 47 Kg?

Hi, everybody...

This post will written in Bahasa.

Bicara tentang berat badan, pasti banyak yang bilang saya ini tidak gemuk walaupun dengan berat badan 52kg. Tapi, saya merasa berat badan segitu sudah begah banget. Banyak baju yang gak muat dan waktu di foto pipi saya chubby banget.

See?

Ya, untuk ukuran saya, berat badan segitu tidak proposional, mengingat tinggi badan hanya 157cm. Ukuran yang 'pas' menurut saya, yah... diangka 48kg. Kalau kalian ingat waktu dulu saya pernah berusaha untuk mengurangi berat badan saya, dari mulai diet mayo, OCD, sampai ganti breakfast dengan herbal*fe, namun hasilnya nihil. Yah, dibilang nihil sekali juga tidak sih, tapi hasilnya yo-yo atau mentok turun 1-2kg saja dan kembali lagi diawal kalau saya tidak jaga pola dietnya. (Baca juga: Klarifikasi Diet Mayo Yang Benar)

Gettin stuck in that, akhirnya males untuk diet-diet lagi. Apalagi ditambah suami (waktu itu masih calon) ingin menaikkan berat badan, karena dia terlalu kurus. Setiap suami makan, saya ikut-ikutan makan karena ngiler... Hahaha.

Sampai di satu titik, saya merasa ini sudah saatnya saya harus stop dan losing my weight. Saya putuskan untuk ikut senam. Yeah you know, dengar kata senam yang ada di otak saya adalah ibu-ibu rempong dengan segala kecentilannya. Well, ternyata saya salah besar, senam yang saya ikuti bukan senam biasa. Kalau senam biasa gerakannya ga akan cukup bikin saya keringetan, kalau senam yang ini, cukup 10 menit ikut sessionnya sudah bikin saya ngos-ngosan.

Team Senam yang dinamakan ANGGOTA MILITER

Salah satu kegilaan Anggota Militer

Awal joint senam ini, saya tidak ada expectation apapun, karena sudah capek dengan hasil diet. Saya cuma ingin badan saya fit dan kencang menjelang hari H. Saya mulai ikut senam di sekitar pertengahan November 2015 (kalau tidak salah) dan hasilnya amazing banget. Saya berhasil menurunkan berat sebanyak 5kg. Tanpa diet ketat dan makan seperti biasa. Hahaha... cuma yang saya lakukan ialah rutin ikut setiap sessionnya, mulai dari aerobic, cardio, barbel, yoga sampai plymatric. Dibilang rutin setiap saat juga tidak sih, ada saat-saat dimana saya sedang datang bulan maupun lagi malas atau juga sedang ada urusan, biasanya saya absent.

The result

Same t-shirt, different weight. After achieve 47kg

Menurut saya, ini pengalaman menurunkan berat badan yang paling berhasil, karena sampai sekarang tidak ada efek yo-yo bahkan setelah absent senam sekitar 3 minggu disebabkan sibuk urusan wedding. Setelah merried pun, saya lanjut honeymoon di Bali sekitar seminggu dan makan terus, berat badan saya tetap 47kg!

Honeymoon Time

Honeymoon Time with Husband

Well, berdasarkan pengalaman saya, akhirnya saya bisa ambil kesimpulan seperti ini:

If you want to lose your weight, know your body first. Mengenali jenis badan sendiri itu penting. Saya tipe yang mudah turun dan mudah gemuk. Jadi, dengan mengenali jenis badan kita, kita bisa lebih mudah menganalisa dan memutuskan diet mana yang akan diambil.
Ubah mindset, from being skinny to healty body. Beneran dech, tubuh kita itu tidak bodoh. Dia akan 'mencari' berat badan yang sesuai setelah pola hidup kita dijaga.
Don't affraid with fat! Lemak itu bukan musuh, tubuh perlu lemak sebagai cadangan makanan. Sama seperti kita ketika punya cadangan uang untuk kebutuhan mendesak. Menghilangkan lemak dalam tubuh malah bikin kita tidak punya 'stok' imun yang baik.
Ubah lemak jadi otot. Kalau kelebihan lemak, lemak tersebut harus diubah menjadi otot (bukan dihilangkan). Olahraga teratur membuat tubuh kita lebih kencang, walaupun berat badan tidak berkurang, akan tetapi shape tubuh kita menjadi lebih baik.
Diet means what you eat is less than what you will burn. Banyak definisi tentang diet itu sendiri. Buat saya, diet itu berarti kalori makanan yang masuk harus sedikit ketimbang yang dibuang. Jadi, percuma kalau tidak makan tapi kegiatannya hanya sedikit dan diisi dengan tidur atau aktifitas yang tidak banyak membakar kalori. Jadi, lebih baik makan seperti biasa tapi aktifitas lebih banyak atau melakukan kegiatan yang banyak mengeluarkan kalori. Lebih efektif dan lebih nyaman buat saya.

XOXOXO

Sekian cerita kali, mungkin bisa membantu dan menjadikan inspirasi buat kalian yang akan mengurangi berat badan. Please share pengalaman kalian seputar diet dan mengurangi berat badan di comment ya. Stay gorgeous!

Regards and Love,

Wedding Day

Written by F! Makeup on 4:14:00 PM in Makeup, Personal Life, Photoshoot with No comments

Hi, long time no see everyone...

Yes, I know, please blame me for a thousand reason why I abandoned this blog. For my relatives and friends, they might be knew about our wedding and its take all my concern (even for my working).

Yeah, you know, marriage is a big decision (very big). You have to put all your everything to it. Sometimes, some people just asking me what I stressed about, but I couldn’t tell them – it was confusing. You thinking a lot, but you couldn’t describe what you are thinking for.

Capture by TLM Photography

One by one and step by step finally, we passed all process. Give thanks for Jesus Christ because of His blessing – everything going well. Now, we just started a new phase in our life for become husband – wife and I have a lot project to achieved in my mind.

Candid Capture by TLM-Photography

Being a new wife for me is kind balancing your personal of single life before and nowdays you should thinking twice about it - to put your partner first than yourself. You have to prior your partner or your family than yours.

At least, please enjoy our unforgettable moment through photos below. Thank you for all support! (Please click to bigger view)